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It would also explain why you would feel very hurt and angry when your partner leaves, since he/she took away all that stuff you were getting.
On the other hand, if you had a strong identity outside of the relationship, then you would simply return to the happy state you were in before you made the trades.
When you like a person, you constantly think about them.
You imagine yourself in a fantasy, where you go places and do things together. He/she is romantic, loving, kind, and does exactly what you want when you want it.
This is when people sit at home crying, blaming the other person for not fulfilling their dreams. Now say there were 2 people in the world, what would you do?
Did you just go out on a date and wonder how it went?
You won’t feel the “my life is coming to an end” type of pain. Even if there are people around, you can still be alone.
Aren’t those situations of you being alone completely unlikely though? In fact, outside of very involved relationships, you are alone most of the time.
That is the key to a healthy relationship actually, since even in a relationship, you’ll be alone some portion of the time.
A relationship is just an extension of the economic model.
Do you realize that means you’re better off than you were before you entered the relationship? You’re now standing at a point higher than you were at before the relationship (and either higher or lower than when you were in the relationship depending on how you look at it). Now, if a relationship happens to come along which will make you happier – Okee dokie! A lot of pain comes as a result of not knowing yourself and what you want.