“So it was nice to be able to put myself in that network and for people to know and I can say ‘I am a queer woman’ and talk to other queer femme women.” Eric Resnick, an online dating coach and consultant for several major online dating companies, says even just 10 years ago, people seeking same-sex partners online were limited to fetish or sex sites.“If you thought you might have an interest in the same gender, there were not a whole lot of places to look,” he says.“Now, it’s as simple as typing in ‘looking for’ in your area.If you feel like there is a part of you you’ve been holding back on, you’ve got the opportunity to hop onto almost any site and just do a quick search.” There is a growing host of online dating services catered to the LGBTQ community.
This was certainly the case for Kyle Govans, who met his fiancé on gay dating app Jack’d.
“If you’re starting to think you want to date someone but you’re confused, you don’t have to know what you want.
You can put the tag ‘questioning,’ which gives users more flexibility.” Nearly 4,000 people on the site identify as “questioning” of the more than 200,000 people who opted for tagged orientations outside of the default options.
In 2014, Ok Cupid expanded its sexual orientation tags to 12 different options, including queer, pansexual, aesxual, and more.
The service now offers 20 different tags for gender identity besides “man” and “woman,” including agender, transgender, and genderqueer.
Users can also change their orientation at any time.